Kinesthetics (Kino) is the association of a particular moment with a touch or feeling. Establishing touch with a woman upon first meeting is very important. Women will remember your meeting much more clearly and for a longer period of time if you establish touch with her. If I’m being introduced to a woman I always greet her with hand shake accompanied by a kiss on the cheek (don’t do this in a business situation). Kissing her on the cheek along with a firm hand shake held longer than normal immediately accomplishes so many things. It establishes a kino connection that will help her remember you. It also shows that you are bold and not afraid of taking action. Another thing it does is immediately takes away the chance of you falling into the friend zone. With that kiss you secure your spot as an affectionate, sexual being.

Another great way to begin the kino process is to lean in when she asks you something and gently touch her arm or back. Begin to pay attention to how she reacts. Does she stiffen up and pull away? Does she go with it? Does she lean in closer to you? Does she touch you back? Pay close attention to these clues because they’ll help you gauge how she’ll respond to your kiss attempt later on. So many guys are oblivious to how she’ll react at the time of going in for the kiss. By that point I can usually tell exactly how she’ll respond.

If the opportunity for establishing kino doesn’t seem to happening you need to create it. Reach over and brush something out of her hair and then act as though it fell on the back of her shoulder and gently brush it to the floor. There doesn’t need to really be anything in her hair. Just brush it off first and then say, “you had something in your hair”. Trust me – she’s not going to search around on the floor until she finds the thing that was in her hair. She’ll take your word for it. This is also a great technique because it makes her feel at ease with you. Her subconscious will make her feel like you’ve known each other for a while because only someone that she’s really close with would be concerned and comfortable enough to take something out of her hair.

A perfect opportunity to keep kino going is to occasionally bump your feet against hers under the table. You can even take it a step further and make a little joke saying, “Are you trying to play footsie with me? I knew you liked me”. See how she responds to the little game you’ve started. If she is very receptive you can move on to more intense flirting.