Pickup Artist

You must have heard of the term pick up artist being used for men who can easily get any woman they want within a short span of time. Generally, a pick up artist is used to denote men who are experts in the art of seducing strange women. While all this might sound archaic to you, we can hereby denote a man who has acquired the skill of picking up or seducing women who are not from his social circle as a pick up artist. If you can somehow become a pick up artist, you will find women loving you and men hating you, but then you wouldn’t want to be a pick up artist if you were not straight, would you?

The art of picking up women can be acquired and learnt and it has nothing to do with your background or your upbringing. Experts in this field treat getting close to women as a task which they approach in a calculative and scientific manner. These are people who have a set route and solution for every new situation that they find themselves in. Instead of finding out and operating in situations that they find comfortable, like what most men do, pick up artists have the knack and the ability to make any situation that they find themselves in comfortable enough to operate in. This is a man who will never feel out of place or out of his depth at least as far as women are concerned.

Since picking up women is both an art and a science for an artist, most pick up artists study and train in order to imbibe all the methods and procedures of getting intimate with women. There are different theories and methodologies that different pick up artists use in order to achieve the same target. Most of the methodologies can be broadly divided into direct and indirect categories.

Direct game is the method of approaching a woman directly and making your intentions clear on approach. This is one of the most popular methods used for approaching and picking up women as previous research and theory indicate that women get attracted to men who are confident enough to express their desires openly. In an open society, this is actually one of the most popular methods used by pick up artists for picking their prey. However, critics of the direct method argue that this kind of an open expression of desire makes women uncomfortable and often results in scaring them off.

On the other hand, pick up artists following the Indirect Method will first try to get close to the woman on other than physical levels and impress her in order to get the permission to seduce her. While this is a method that is generally followed in civilized society a lot, its critics rubbish it as an idea that gives more importance to women when it comes to making relationship decisions.

Let’s start with two quick definitions. PUA means Pick Up Artist. An opener is a conversational piece-a question or a statement or something-which used by a pick up artist to strike up a conversation with a girl or group of people containing girls.

Obviously, to attract a woman you need to get talking to her, which is why it’s so important to get your openers right. If they fail, the whole conversation fails and, therefore, your chances of attracting the woman are nil.

So…your openers need to be VERY strong and delivered very efficiently.

There are three main kinds of openers. They are:

SITUATIONAL OPENERS

These are opening questions or statements that relate to the situation and environment you and the girl you’re going to be talking to are both in and experiencing. The advantage of situational openers is that they tie you and the girl together with a unifying subject matter. The disadvantage is that they can often be a little boring and without emotion. Your job, therefore, is to make sure your situational openers are emotionally engaging and interesting to the girl.

OPINION OPENERS

These are usually questions that involve asking the girl’s opinion on a specific matter or topic. They’re good because there’s plenty of room for interesting and really engaging conversation off the back end of the opinion opener.

DIRECT OPENERS

These are opening statements and questions that don’t hide behind any real “reason”. They’re simply direct methods of starting a conversation with a girl and often take the form of a one-sentence ‘gambit throw down’. Basically, you say something to the girl that makes her respond, then develop your conversation with her from there.

Here are two examples of powerful openers. The first one is called the Bridging Technique. It allows you to start a conversation in a really normal (and even somewhat uninteresting way) to get the girl on your side and the dialogue alive. THEN you use the existing dialogue to bridge into a much more interesting and high-energy mode, which is what hooks the girl or group. For example:

Let’s say you’re in a bar or at a party, you could start the dialogue by saying, “Hi. How are you?” It doesn’t matter what she says. She’ll probably say something fairly non-committal, like “fine” or “okay, thanks”. The split second she answers, say, “What do you think of the crowd? The people here?” As you ask this question, look around at the men and women. She’ll do the same. This shared moment helps build the connection between the two of you. You’re doing something together. She’ll probably answer by saying something like, “Yeah, they seem nice” or “They’re okay, yeah”. Now you’ve talked for a few moments and a dialogue has been established between the two of you, you can transition into the real meat of your opener. The basic rule is, step up the intrigue and interest with what you say next. In this example, you could say, “Yeah, I think they’re all right. Actually… (move in a little closer to her like you’re going to tell her a secret), there’s one guy I’m not sure about. There he is! (point out someone who looks like a bit of a character. Maybe he’s dressed in a weird way or something.) Will you protect me if he comes up to us and asks us to pull his finger or something?”

You can get a little wacky, just keep things fun and unpredictable. She’ll join in and you’ll have mutually felt sexual chemistry before you know it. Just remember that a bridge opener is one which starts with an everyday comment or question that no girl will find hard to answer, then moves into a more flirty, unusual mode.

That is a good example of a situational opener. Now let’s look at an example of an opinion opener. This one is especially good because it gets the women laughing AND quite possibly DISAGREEING with one another, which is a perfect way to inject some real energy into the group, which now includes you. This distracts the members of the group from thinking, “How come this guy is now talking in our group?” They’re having too much fun to think anything like that. If anything, you’re making their group’s dynamic BETTER. It’s called the Umbrella Opener and it goes like this.

Approach the group and almost walk past them. Just before you pass them, turn back a little like something has just flashed into your mind-this decreases the feeling that you have specifically approached THEM over any other group. Without facing them dead-on (turn your body slightly away), say: “Hey, do you think it’s okay for a guy to carry an umbrella?” They will either say:

- YES
- NO
- I DON’T KNOW
- WHY ARE YOU ASKING?

They won’t saying anything else. Here’s what to reply with in each case:

- YES
“Really? Even if he does this when he carries it?” Now pretend to hold an umbrella above your head and stick out your pinkie finger, like people do when they drink tea in a goofy way. They will laugh. If they still say yes, then ask one of the girls if she’d mind her boyfriend carrying an umbrella like that.

- NO
“What if it was raining, wouldn’t you want him to protect you from the rain?”

- I DON’T KNOW
“Would you mind if your boyfriend carried one with his pinkie finger out like this?”

- WHY ARE YOU ASKING?
“Because me and my friends have been talking about masculinity and femininity. One friend says she (social value is added here!) thinks it’s cool, my other friend says he thinks it’s gay looking.

From any of these four positions you can continue the conversation easily, because the group will be divided on what they think. You can work off this by created some controversy. The group will banter amongst themselves. Then you can bridge into a new topic. Introduce yourself, ask how they know each other, etc.

Kinesthetics (Kino) is the association of a particular moment with a touch or feeling. Establishing touch with a woman upon first meeting is very important. Women will remember your meeting much more clearly and for a longer period of time if you establish touch with her. If I’m being introduced to a woman I always greet her with hand shake accompanied by a kiss on the cheek (don’t do this in a business situation). Kissing her on the cheek along with a firm hand shake held longer than normal immediately accomplishes so many things. It establishes a kino connection that will help her remember you. It also shows that you are bold and not afraid of taking action. Another thing it does is immediately takes away the chance of you falling into the friend zone. With that kiss you secure your spot as an affectionate, sexual being.

Another great way to begin the kino process is to lean in when she asks you something and gently touch her arm or back. Begin to pay attention to how she reacts. Does she stiffen up and pull away? Does she go with it? Does she lean in closer to you? Does she touch you back? Pay close attention to these clues because they’ll help you gauge how she’ll respond to your kiss attempt later on. So many guys are oblivious to how she’ll react at the time of going in for the kiss. By that point I can usually tell exactly how she’ll respond.

If the opportunity for establishing kino doesn’t seem to happening you need to create it. Reach over and brush something out of her hair and then act as though it fell on the back of her shoulder and gently brush it to the floor. There doesn’t need to really be anything in her hair. Just brush it off first and then say, “you had something in your hair”. Trust me – she’s not going to search around on the floor until she finds the thing that was in her hair. She’ll take your word for it. This is also a great technique because it makes her feel at ease with you. Her subconscious will make her feel like you’ve known each other for a while because only someone that she’s really close with would be concerned and comfortable enough to take something out of her hair.

A perfect opportunity to keep kino going is to occasionally bump your feet against hers under the table. You can even take it a step further and make a little joke saying, “Are you trying to play footsie with me? I knew you liked me”. See how she responds to the little game you’ve started. If she is very receptive you can move on to more intense flirting.