Using Kino (touching a girl while talking to her) with women should be the #1 way to demonstrate to a girl how you are different than other guys around her who are too scared of her beauty to even speak to her, much less touch her like she was a lost-long lover of yours.

But by gradually turning up the amount of Kino you are creating with a woman, the more you will be able to escalate her sexual excitement levels, so in this article I will tell you exactly how to increase your Kino skills and not scare the girl so much that she will run away from you.

When you first start talking to a girl, you should immediately touch her lightly on the arm when you are making a point about something or she tells you something in which you can show her that you care about what she said to you on a deeper level. Then you should move closer to her so that your leg is touching hers. And by all means, do NOT move your leg away from her. Just leave it there and see if she moves her leg away from yours first.

You can also ramp up the Kino by letting your hands “accidentally” brush up against her stomach, preferably the palms of your hands. You can do this when you are gesturing with your hands as you tell her something of great importance to you. You should also touch the small of her back and pull her closer to you while you tell her you can’t hear her that well. All of these smaller Kino touches will build up to where she will just naturally assume this is the way you act with all women, not just her, and she will allow you to go much further in the Kino game.

TIME TO REALLY TAKE CHARGE AND GO IN DIRECTLY

Since you have already demonstrated to her that you like to touch her, she is now ready to be more accepting of the type of direct touching that I wrote this article about. These types of more intimate touching techniques will help you prep the girl for the passionate kissing sessions you need to get the girl to much higher excitement levels.

These techniques work a lot better if you are sitting next to the girl at a much quieter venue than the one you approached her in, such as a loud nightclub. Take her to a lounge area where they have couches and then get really close to her. Ask her what type of shampoo she wears and then lean in and run your fingers through her hair and tell her how soft it is. If she’s wearing a necklace, lean in and examine it very closely and see if she backs away from you.

If not, move your face closer to her neck and smell her perfume while putting your hand on her leg and then slowly move up to her waist. Make sure you are giving her compliments about the way she smells, the way her hair is soft and her skin is perfect. Then just slowly lean in and start kissing her neck while your hand caresses her neck and waist. You should be able to pull her chin close to your lips and then kiss her passionately while moving your hand to the back of her neck, caressing that part of her neck as well.

If all goes perfectly as planned, this great Kino technique will turn every ‘”cold girl” into a red-hot lover within an hour’s time frame.

The term Kino is very important to understand when you are just beginning to learn seduction skills because Kino is basically the science of touching a girl while you are complimenting her on a specific quality you love about her.

Kino is primarily used as a way of escalating her to new levels of sexual excitement when you are leading her down the path of making sure she desires you as much if not more than you desire her.

Kino is a great way to never allow yourself to get in a girl’s friend zone at any time, and I would make sure it was an integral part of my initial approaches with a girl every time I make that first step if I were you.

When you first begin approaching women, look for any way possible to lightly touch her on the arm, around her elbow, just to get her attention.

This also will make her feel that you do this with all people you come into contact with, her included. Your first priority in establishing rapport and comfort with a girl is to use Kino as a way of ensuring to her that you are comfortable with her, and vice versa. The way you feel about her can directly influence the way she feels about you.

KINO IS PERFECT FOR DEVELOPING INSTANT RAPPORT

That’s why Kino goes much further in establishing an intimate relationship with a girl over any other method known in the seduction community. Try saying something like, “That’s a pretty cool ring you have there,” and immediately take that ring hand and examine it much more closely.

By holding her ring hand in your right hand, you have established to her that you have no trouble getting close to her within a few minutes of talking to her. And it also helps when you have a genuine interest in something she is wearing so you can convey that interest to her through physically touching her body without seeming like a pervert.

After you have talked to a girl for about five minutes and she has not moved away from you, nor has she removed your hand from her in any manner, it is time for you to step up the amount of Kino you are demonstrating on her.

Say something like, “You know, you really look like you could use a hug. Here,” and gradually put your arms around her hips and lightly pull her into you. If she is still resistant to you, move your arms back to your side and say, “Maybe you don’t need a hug yet, but if you’re a good girl, you might earn one.”

TIME TO WARM HER UP

You have to say this to her with a smile on your face, otherwise she might not take your insinuation to her that she has to earn a hug from you extremely well. This technique will turn even a negative reaction from her into something positive for you to use on her because she will now have to earn the next hug from you because of her bratty behavior she has shown to you be moving away from your hug.

The final step of implementing correct Kino skills with a girl you are having an initial conversation with is to escalate the location of where you are touching her. For instance, while you started touching her on her elbow, you should gradually work your way to her back shoulders, and then let your hand fall casually to her waistline.

Then you can let your hands run to her hips and let them stay there at least for 30 seconds at a time. This will allow her to think of you as a potential lover, and NOT as “just friends.”

Like anything else in life, you have to practice great Kino skills with every new approach you start with a girl, so start using this great technique today!

We all want to attract women, and many of us are willing to go to great lengths to get results. So, it’s on this note that I decided to give the Mystery Method a try. The Mystery Method is the formula for picking up women, made popular on the reality television show called, The Pick Up Artist. I decided to give a few tricks to the trade a try.

1. “Peacocking”. This is one of the tricks to the Mystery Method and it refers to showing up at a club, in some way dressed ”different” or having elements of dress that stand out and cause attention to be placed your way. Hence the reference to a peacock. I showed up in a feather boa, large rimmed glasses, and motorcycle boots which I colored white with shoe paint. I thought the boa was a perfect, if not almost direct representation of the peacock and “peacocking”. What I found, almost immediately, withing the first 30 minutes, was that I was attracting more looks from guys than I was girls. It wasn’t that these guys were attracted to me, it’s that they seemed to want to kick my…. I was really pissing off the majority of males in the club, but it was more of a laughing type of anger. I seemed to be the butt of everyones joke and at the same time they seemed to want to pummel me. This attitude obviously drifted over to the females of the club and scored me zero points in that area. Matter fact I was in the negative, having to somehow dig myself out.

2. “Did you see the girl fight outside”? A popular opening line in the Mystery Method refers to opening up a set of people by lying about a non existent girl fight which took place outside. When I tried this I often got the response: “I’m surprised they didn’t beat your —” One time I did open up a set but was halted a moment later by “dude, whats up with the boa?”, followed with hushed laughter from the group.

While peacocking and set opener’s may have their merit to some degree, I believe at least the former can only be performed in bigger city clubs where more of a freak show environment is tolerable. In the mid west, you can easily become a target, not for female attraction, but for male aggression and ridicule!

On a recent episode of Dr. Phil, he invited the founders of Love Systems (formerly known as The Mystery Method) and Ross Jeffries (founder of Speed Seduction) to talk about their business, techniques for picking up women, and basically giving everyone an idea about what they’re about.

Dr. Phil seemed nonconfrontational, given the target demographic for his program and the fact that the episode was titled “Women Beware”, and likened learning how to meet women to the fact that women wear pushup bras, makeup, and take a lot of time to work on their appearance. If women can take steps to make themselves more attractive, then why shouldn’t guys be able to learn the same thing?

Mystery Method guys defended their method, claiming that people have to learn a good way to approach. If the way you start a conversation is boring and uncreative, then you’re likely to just get tuned out, and the girl won’t get a chance to know you. Both the women on the program said the Mystery Method techniques were really interesting and caught their attention, and they were a lot different from what they were used to hearing and being approached with (drunk dudes and sleazy guys).

Then Ross Jeffries came on and Dr. Phil seemed to be more aggressive towards him, perhaps because the image he portrays in his advertising is mysogynistic. But Jeffries has always claimed that the way to draw attention to his product is through really blunt, offensive, locker room talk, while the actual tone of the product is a lot more positive. Jeffries commented that Dr. Phil’s producers do the same thing, taking the most provocative clips from the shows to get people to watch (but this rebuttal was cut from the show). He also went on to attack the Mystery Method company, saying that they teach techniques that are destructive to woman’s self-esteem and can have negative long-term reprecussions.

In actuality, even though there’s a lot of negative press surrounding both these groups and the idea of guys learning how to pick up women, and the fact that the competiting seduction gurus often get into drawn out battles with each other, the fact is beneath all of this are just some good, common sense ideas. Both these methodologies (Mystery Method and Speed Seduction) place an emphasis on improving yourself and your lifestyle to become a more attractive person. Both place an emphasis on drawing boundaries about who you are and what kind of behaviour you’ll accept from people. The Mystery Method is based on telling interesting stories which portray attractive qualities about yourself, which is something that most cool people do anyway. I’m sure a lot of you have friends that tell the same kind of stories the first time they’re meeting new people, it’s just that they’re not really that consciously aware that they’re using the same stories over and over again. Speed Seduction, on the other hand, teaches you to learn certain patterns and phrases to make your speech more persuasive and interesting. When you look at some of the romanticists that have existed over the years, people like Casanova, you’ll find that they use the same kind of descriptive language, they just didn’t consciously try and learn and apply techniques to acquire this manner of speech. Or maybe they did?

The overall reaction of the studio audience was pretty positive, and as the show went on and the guests got a chance to explain their side of the story, they started to win over the audience. Savoy, of Mystery Method, later said that there doesn’t have to be this negative image of the seduction community. If you’ve thought about making improvements to your social skills, there’s plenty of material and information out there to help you do. You don’t have to have money, looks, or fame to get the kind of success and social life that you really want, you just have to make the decision to get out there and socialize, and now you have the tools out there to help you improve.

Read more on Famoustanda.com. I’m sure most of you have heard about this new show on VH1, The Pick-up Artist. Yes?… No? Well for those of you who have, can I please get someone’s opinion on this. For those of you who haven’t a clue what I’m talking about, in a nutshell, it’s about 8 socially challenged men who pack up and head to Texas where they will all live together in hope of guidance from Eric, A.K.A “Mystery”, a “Master Pick-up Artist” and his two friends. Each week there is a different lesson to be learned by these romantic illiterates. The one with the weakest game (not that any of them had any coming into this) will be sent home after a deliberation.

Okay, great! Good for them that they’re stepping up. My problem lies here… Have you SEEN this guy, Mystery? He looks to me like a wannabe Tommy Lee who sports a hat similar to the one Pamela Anderson wore to the 1999 MTV VMA. Oh, it gets worse, that’s only when he isn’t wearing that awful thing that resembles a swimming cap. He even pairs it off with goggles! For all I know it could really be a swimming cap. His friends who take credit for being “Master Pick-up Artists” don’t look any more credible themselves. Their names “Matador” and “J-Dog” don’t help them either. I can’t understand how these 8 men can put their trust in a man who is cross dresses between Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee to help them find their Mo-Jo.

C’mon… His “entourage” go by the name of Matador and J-Dog! Matador btw looks like a foreign Jesse Katsopolis only he has NOTHING on Jesse’s hair or anything else for that matter. The only thing that stood on J-Dog (besides his unfashionable sense of fashion) was the 2 BLACK stripes on the side of his blond/ yellow set of hair. Who does that and claims to be a “Master Pick-up Artist”? I’m sorry but Mystery, Matador, J-Dog… If I ever got set up on a blind date with one of you the only thing you’d be picking up would be the tab.

Pickup Artist

You must have heard of the term pick up artist being used for men who can easily get any woman they want within a short span of time. Generally, a pick up artist is used to denote men who are experts in the art of seducing strange women. While all this might sound archaic to you, we can hereby denote a man who has acquired the skill of picking up or seducing women who are not from his social circle as a pick up artist. If you can somehow become a pick up artist, you will find women loving you and men hating you, but then you wouldn’t want to be a pick up artist if you were not straight, would you?

The art of picking up women can be acquired and learnt and it has nothing to do with your background or your upbringing. Experts in this field treat getting close to women as a task which they approach in a calculative and scientific manner. These are people who have a set route and solution for every new situation that they find themselves in. Instead of finding out and operating in situations that they find comfortable, like what most men do, pick up artists have the knack and the ability to make any situation that they find themselves in comfortable enough to operate in. This is a man who will never feel out of place or out of his depth at least as far as women are concerned.

Since picking up women is both an art and a science for an artist, most pick up artists study and train in order to imbibe all the methods and procedures of getting intimate with women. There are different theories and methodologies that different pick up artists use in order to achieve the same target. Most of the methodologies can be broadly divided into direct and indirect categories.

Direct game is the method of approaching a woman directly and making your intentions clear on approach. This is one of the most popular methods used for approaching and picking up women as previous research and theory indicate that women get attracted to men who are confident enough to express their desires openly. In an open society, this is actually one of the most popular methods used by pick up artists for picking their prey. However, critics of the direct method argue that this kind of an open expression of desire makes women uncomfortable and often results in scaring them off.

On the other hand, pick up artists following the Indirect Method will first try to get close to the woman on other than physical levels and impress her in order to get the permission to seduce her. While this is a method that is generally followed in civilized society a lot, its critics rubbish it as an idea that gives more importance to women when it comes to making relationship decisions.

Becoming a PUA (Pick Up Artist) is not a destination, it’s a journey of self improvement where there is no end. It is a constantly evolving process of gaining self confidence, self esteem and the by-product will be that you are more attractive to the type of woman that you want to be attracted to you.

There are aspects to becoming a PUA that will take you quite a while to become familiar with and incorporate into your arsenal and there are some things that you can do straight away.

Here are 4 things that you can do instantly.

Remove Unwanted Hair.

You may not realise that you have unwanted hair so take a good look at yourself and see if you have long nasal hair that protrudes and comes beyond the bottom of your nose. Check your ear lobes out and see if there are stray long hairs that stand out. Determine if you have a uni-brow and if you have all or any of these then address them straight away. Spend a minimal amount of money and buy a set of clippers and tweezers and remove the unwanted hair and keep on top of the regrowth.

Clear Out Old Clothes.

Have you been wearing the same jeans for the last 5 years? Are they out of fashion? You need to go through your wardrobe and give yourself a makeover. Think of the type of person you want to attract and look at the type of guys they generally hang out with. Look at the type of clothes that they wear and determine how you can incorporate those type of clothes into your own wardrobe. Ditch the comical T-shirts that illustrate your favourite cartoon character or brand of alcohol and go for a more serious fashion statement.

Accessorize Your Wardrobe.

Boring jeans can be made to look cool with the addition of a thick fashionable leather belt. Plain T-shirts can look good with an attractive leather bracelet round your wrist or some cool dog tags hanging down in front of it.
If you don’t wear jewellery consider a nice silver thumb ring or a discreet bracelet to match.

Get a New Hairstyle.

This is not hard to do and is not rocket science but you need to be honest with yourself and change is hard unless you are brutally honest. Go to a decent hair salon and ask the hair stylists opinion, look through some monthly issued men’s magazines to determine the latest styles, you could also watch popular music channels on TV to see what is in fashion.
If you are bald or going bald consider have a shaven head after all this is a very popular hairstyle.
If you have short hair try moulding it into different styles using some product from a reputable hair styling company such as hair wax or serum.

As you can see these are simple tips but are very effective, the hardest part is undertaking the research and committing yourself to caring more about how you look and how others may perceive you. Like most things in life you will only get out what you have put in and if things are not working out for you as you are then you must be honest with yourself and change them.

Men have been trying to figure women out forever. There have been countless books written on the subject over the years, yet none of them seemed to work. That was until Neil Strauss recently published, The Game- Penetrating the Secret Society of the Pick Up Artist. Neil’s book, a best seller, seems to be the first book that men are truly latching onto as the savior of the male race.

The book describes Neil’s journey from AFC (average frustrated chump) to PUA (pick up artist.) Neil, or Style as he refers to himself in the book, joins an underground community of aspiring PUA’s and begins unlearning everything he knows about women. Once he washes out his old belief new teachers, gurus, mad seducing scientists fill his brain with the methods they use.

Mystery, of the Mystery Method, focuses his system on the M3 model. This model includes: building attraction, building comfort, and seduction. Mystery builds attraction through use of DHVs (demonstrations of higher value.) A DHV could be simply a story in which the storyteller displays a certain characteristic he wants his listener to pick up on, or it could be magic trick, a funny joke, or the way he handles the targets friends and the AMOGs (alpha males of the group.)

In Neils book he gives quite a few examples of openers, routines, and closes that he learned during his time studying with Mystery, David DeAngelo, Ross Jeffries, Juggler, and the many other seduction gurus out there.

Some of the common examples of Neil’s seduction arsenal:
The opinion opener
The cat on a string theory
The Best Friend test
The cube
The dual induction massage
The ESP routine
Negging the target
The Kiss close
C vs. U shaped smiles

While all these routines are field tested and work, the question is; How long will they survive now that these routines are becoming mainstream knowledge. How long before women pick up on what the man is doing? How long before they’ve heard the exact same opener twice in one night?

Neil Strauss was recently posed with this question. Here is his response:

“The fact is, the game will always work. It’s just that some of the wording to the scripts may have to change – and that’s only for those who use the scripts for “training.”

For example:

What’s one of the most cliched pickup lines in the world?

The corniest, cheesiest one?

That’s right: It’s “What’s your sign?”

If you walk up to a girl and say, “What’s your sign?” she’ll know you’re delivering a rehearsed pickup line from some bad 70’s TV show.

But guess what? “What’s Your Sign” is almost exactly like the openers and DHVs (demonstrations of higher value) in The Game.

There was a point when “What’s your sign” was not a corny way to start a conversation. It was a non-sexual opener: a means of breaking the ice with strangers without hitting on them. It was a current topic, exciting and interesting. (As Mystery once put it, the best subjects for conversations are relationships and the unknown.) Furthermore, it was a way of demonstrating value. Instead of saying “let’s ball” (or whatever the lingo was at the time), you were showing that you were spiritual and had interesting knowledge to offer.

In the parlance of the seduction community, it was a neutral entertaining opener with DHV spikes built in.

And, sure, we all know it’s outdated and cheesy. But isn’t it extraordinary how a few minutes into seventy percent of all conversations with women, a discussion of astrology ensues? She’ll probably ask you, “What sign are you?” And if you know a lot about astrology, it’s actually a demonstration of higher value.

(Note to logical, empirical, factual men: Don’t say, “I don’t believe in that bullshit.” Cynicism and negativity are two traits to avoid when meeting a woman, even if you think they make you seem “cool.”)

When I was researching the book, I spent hours in Miami with a PUA named Maddash, who gave me a long tutorial on astrology. He taught me what all the signs meant, what the twelve houses were all about, how to identify astrological trends in people’s lives, and how to determine sign compatibility.

Whether or not I believed in astrology was immaterial: I now knew a lot about it. And it made for great conversation, connection, and value when I was meeting people.

So the epiphany I had was: “What’s your sign” STILL WORKS. It will always work.

Everything will always work. If people find out about it, all you have to do is change the way you say it and perhaps when you say it.

For example, if saying, “Hey guys, I need a quick opinion on something” telegraphs that you’re delivering a pickup line because the women read about it in a magazine, no worries. Just change it to: “I need some quick help settling a debate.” If opinion openers don’t work anymore, save the question for later in the conversation. I already have three other types of openers I’ve come up with that I’m waiting for the right time to release. And if I can come up with alternatives, I’ve got a feeling YOU can too.

In the bigger picture, the thing that’s important to remember is: There is no such thing as a pickup line. The language and wording don’t matter. What’s important is the intent behind them. The Jealous Girlfriend opener works not because it’s the Jealous Girlfriend opener, but because it’s a way to start an animated conversation with a group of people without hitting on anyone. So as long as you can always do that, you’ve got nothing to worry about.

Knowledge will not change the fundamentals of how women and men are attracted to each other. To make a bad comparison: Guys who like big breasts tend to be into women with fake breasts; it doesn’t even matter to them that they’re NOT REAL. They still flip the same attraction switches that natural ones do.”

So Neil obviously thinks that it is the responsibility of the PUA to continue to evolve. I could not agree more. I am quite stunned when I am at a bar and I hear a guy reciting a line word for word that he learned in a book. It is one thing to learn principles and build upon them with your own personality and experience and its another thing to be a social robot.

Websites like TSB Magazine are getting tens of thousands of hits every day. I can only hope that the men surfing these sites are looking for education into the deeper understanding of attraction and seduction, and are not looking for word for word lines to say to women at a bar.

First of all, I am not against the PUA community because I don’t like them but I am against the PUA training methods that really don’t help guys with women for the long run.

Here are some lessons I have learned from the pickup community.

1. Women become numbers instead of individuals.
As I started massively approaching women, my perception of them changed. Women started to become objects. They became 7.5’s or 8.3’s on a scale from 1 to 10. It became about the physical beauty instead of the inner beauty that made a girl attractive.

2. You start to not believe in the idea of love.
This is very true. When you approach so many women, it all becomes a game. It becomes about numbers. It no longer becomes about the PERSON. Thus, you start to not believe in the idea of love. This is a very empty experience regardless of how many women you interact with.

3. Pickup becomes your life.
It may sound exciting to have a life where you just pick up and go out with women. But it becomes very empty in the long run. You lose out on the opportunities life has to offer. You lose out on hobbies and passions that you could have developed. I have seen many people in the pickup community take the pickup way too seriously in their lives.

No matter how many pickup gurus try to make you believe that their pickup teachings work, I can tell you that it didn’t give a positive impact with women in the long run.

On the other hand, I have noticed that you can STILL be successful with women by really looking deep inside of you and unlocking the real talents and qualities from within.

From now on, bring out your true self to truly have fun and have success with women.

Never buy a woman a drink. It’s logical to assume that if you buy a woman a drink at the bar that she’ll like you. After all, aren’t we supposed to like people who buy things for us? Yes, this seems logical enough, but remember – women are not logical creatures! Want to know what you’re really saying when you buy a woman a drink? I’m a sucker. I’m weak and I’m trying to buy your attention because I have nothing else better to offer.

Never offer to buy a woman a drink. Many times a woman will accept the drink and stand with you for a little while, but it’s most likely out of pity. A lot of guys have the idea that if they order her a drink and get her to stay around them for a while and drink it, then it’ll allow them enough time to charm her. This does make some sense and if you employ some of my strategies from this book once you have her in your vicinity, you do have a chance of getting her. The problem is that you have set up an uphill battle for yourself because she already thinks you are weak and a sucker.

There are many better ways to get her attention and get her to have her stay around you so don’t bother with the drink buying thing. Also, don’t buy her a drink if she asks you to. Women love free drinks and they’re usually not very shy about asking for them. Now I don’t mean that when you’re out on a date you shouldn’t buy her drinks but when first picking her up, DON’T DO IT! I know it’s hard to say no. She knows it’s hard to say no too – that’s why she’s asking you. This is also a way for her to test how much of a man you are. By giving in right away and getting her the drink, she’ll assume that you’ll give in all the time about other things too. Another reason that you shouldn’t offer to buy a woman a drink is because it’s overdone. Every other idiot at the bar has tried this approach on her for years and you don’t want to be like every other guy. If she asks you to buy her a drink, simply respond with a cocky but humorous response like, “I’m not in the habit of buying drinks for girls I’m not dating. If you play your cards right with me, maybe I’ll take you on a date and buy you some”.